i want my boyfriend to get rid of his dog

This is a fairly reasonable fact that you cannot deny. She did the bed thing ONCE in the beginning and I only got one hour sleep and was a wreck the next day and said never again. Well she peed every where and eventually would climb out over the gates. Pancho wont eat his own food, but growls and is very aggressive and it causes a big stink. Husband now is only concerned with dogs appearance rather than his wife. To think she would choose this animal over me, that she does not care for, was pretty upsetting. I know we need to work on the dogs training, but I feel like it might be easier if my husband liked the dog enough to help share the responsibility of training so that we could tackle it together. If the brother can afford to take a year off he can afford a kennel or to fly the dog to Europe where there are plenty of dogs. We came to a compromise and agreed to put a dog door in our patio, and that way the dogs have their water and good in there and can still go outside. But everything is secret im not allowed to know anything whats going on, she secretly talks to our kids behind closed doors and i have no authority over them or my money goes into the bank weekly with no clue where it goes i must say she earns more than me i think, and i get sleep back to back with her and a dog!. Im in a high security high stress job. But he says its just the breed and totally dismisses my feelings. You are certainly in a bad position financially. Its truly an epidemic! When she passed my macho husband was very sad, stayed by her side, and cried quite a bit. We both want a life together as a family. I need to do something. If he shouts at a little dog because he is an insecure man , he will probably do the same to his wife or potential children. It he loves you,he needs to understand that making you give up this dog would devastate you. But its not the poor canines fault that the masses have chosen to objectify the loyal animal forgetting this is a living creature not a fad. Our selfishness fuels our survival and only some are born with a goodness that not all people have. My husband just seems to want me to do the same for him but without giving me anything in return, even a little bit of honesty about how he feels about things that matter to me. at night the dog climbs on her side of the bed and she even moves up to give her space !!!!! let me tell you it is a massive pet peeve of mine when people want to compare a human baby to that of an animal. But unfortunately I didnt know that and Im now invested in this relationship. They were well trained. It will not only result in a better behaved dog if you are consistent with training, but he will also have the opportunity to bond with the dog.As for the smell, agree that you will bathe the dog on a consistent basis (but not too often), and agree to restrict where the dog can be (kitchen,on your bed, living room). I hate dogs. He used to get mad at me when I was frustrated with him too, but since that didnt do anything I started getting angry with the dog. Heavy training: You have to spend so much time with several bucks. IMO, dogs are meant to live with families and do better in environments where they are allowed some independence and interaction with more than just one person. All I can promise is that I will think heavily on what youve said. Different breeds were actually bred for different reasons, and its funny because hardly any pet owner actually harnesses that energy and trains their dog what they are bred to do, especially terrier or bully breeds. Her mother left yesterday and guess whats still in my home. It is ridiculous. The dog is the sweetest, smartest dog Ive ever had. And even though Ive always been an animal lover, will never own one of my own either. thank you so much for having a forum which allows me to vent & I hope there is no judgement on the readers reply but theyve been in my house for 2 years so I think Ive sufficiently given them a trial. My husband also smells dirty like dogs because they lick him and he cuddles them all over the place. And I would have. A dog is an animal period, it has no human characteristics!!! Its absolutely killing me and I dont want to lose either of them :(. You can only imagine what the level of shedding can get to during hot summer months. The dog also knows now Im irritated so she climbs on in the middle of the night next to my partner and my GF moves up to give her space making My Space less in the bed !!! Omg I was so scared and I thought I was going to loose him! Pets are fine and you may even like them. The husband/boyfriend may need to rehome the dog if its interrupting the relationship. But there is none of that. The anger towards him stems from the fact that I picked up the dog at the pound without consulting him. Should i be concerned about this? When I get off work it seems like he doesnt care if I am home or not. How on earth was I supposed to know that someone was going to treat their dog like an infantile god-being? I was running to emergency vets every 2 weeks. My dog is naturally well behaves she just begs when we have food but if u ignore her she stops. The best part about bigger dogs is the feeling of having them around, to me its so positive. Never for one second did we assume our dogs were our children. since I left my partner my dog is so much more relaxed and only now I realise the reason why his own dog was an absolute nervous wreck, he said it was due to her being an ill treated rescue dog but actually now I believe she was warning me of something very dangerous considering what I know now about that man. He says Beau always has to be outside. I am a light sleeper and cannot sleep with snoring (she is a pug and snores quite loud), not to mention Ive never liked having a dog sleep in my room. I must mention that I was also caretaker for my mom and dad. Hes out of town for work a lot and I get stuck caring for the little jerk. He claimed that he was lost and disconnected and that he regrets what he had done, that he felt very bad afterwards etc. The dog is so gross, drools everywhere All over the walls, sheds like crazy, snores all the time which is so annoying to me, farts and stinks up the house and on top of it all is super moody and snarls at me at times. What other demands are you going to make of him? Shes actually part min pin and part Doxie. Its sooo disturbing! How is the lives and wellbeing of YOUR children less important than an animal?!? Ive given up so much for my wife so she could have this dog and I love her and she acknowledges it, but she doesnt seem to understand how much this has hurt me. His dogs are so spoiled, I feel like they come first. Wow, what a slap in the face. Try to clean the house every day prior to the arrival of the husband/boyfriend. Educate yourself with free content available on the internet and do most of the training by yourself. Especially when cats do their own thing and its not like theyre around bugging you all day like the needy dog. Everything was going great while it was just my girlfriend, her dog and myself. The Japanese Chin has bitten nine other people that include young children and adults and most of those bites have broken the skin. I got married and moved in with my husband awhile ago and we adopted a dog shortly after. They both are very jealous and possessive dogs! Be found at the exact moment they are searching. And my boyfriend doesnt like spending time at my place so were always at his and my dog isnt aloud. But, on the slim chance the dog really was in immediate danger, you could and should find a home for it where every adult in that home wants the dog. I do have a situation I am looking for advice on. And I made it clear when I brought him home the dog was HIS responsibility Not mine not the kids. this puppy is scared and looks at me for comfort. According to her he also gets, cold all the time, so he wants to go under the covers. Other solutions that are worth considering. She made arrangements for her mother to take the dog when she came out to visit last week. When I come home and open the door it smells so horrible that Ive thrown up a couple times from it. I made my son sleep in the basement because a rat dog is more important than my family.. My bf cant stand to hear that anything is bad about Fido, and so basically I just have to tolerate the bad behavior. He obsesses over every detail related to this dog what it eats, what it plays with, where it is, how often it poops, etc. When I do though I will immediately recall moments during the two year courtship where I was driven crazy by her dog and by her lack of discipline. They have control and anger issues. Because she looks sad. She does not listen very much at all. Why? In fact, there is nothing wrong with that if you meet all the needs and wants. And as a non-dog lover, I cannot understate the extreme annoyance of having a highly energetic dog jumping all over me when I come in the door. If this is the case, that can be the reason why your husband/boyfriend needs to rehome the dog. Its so ****** up!! #dogtraining #dogtrainer #phoenixdogtraining #scottsdaledogtraining #dogbehaviorist #dogwhisperer #dogaggression #puppy #housetraining. Im slowly retraining my boyfriend and his dog. Now he reacts this way mainly because he has a bad ear and the barking is like a knife inside his head. Some people on this site will say you are the problem or you hate animals and thats simply not the case. Heres my issue. I always had a vision of how my life was going to turn out, what my home was going to be like, how it was going to look, smell, etc. I have always thought to myself that I could never get together with someone who had ever been cruel to animals, so I broke up and stayed on my own reflecting for a few days. Yet my fiance has an issue with my Pitt drinking so much. We got a puppy at the beginning of last summer and he had gotten quite large by now. She said hes not used to other people I broke up with her. I love the dog and take care if him all day everyday while my boyfriend is at work. If you read my comment below you can see Im all about compromise and still do not agree with an animal in a human bed. So hows that for human loyalty? Not only did he bring his dog on our first date, but the second and third as well. I had a different situation up until this past weekend. But take a moment and step back to look at the situation overall. My pup does chew but not on her things like she use to do. Privacy Policy. The fact is, its not the dog. The fact that this dog is so unmannerly and disobedient bothers the shit out of me!!! And you know what? They need to be given lots of credit. when he went to look at the puppies before we got the dog i kept saying to him no dogs but he never listened , he is caged while we are at work and the other day he didnt lock him up and you guess it he had weeweed in 5 different places around the house. But as I said, equally you have a responsibility to ensure that your dog behaves properly and listens to and respects your partner, AND other people. i cannot stand this animal. While I have a big fat belly and Im constantly complaining about my back. If she cant honestly support your dream 100 percent to me does not seem worth it. The dog has to constantly be in his lap, and he is always calling for it. This is what is promoted through the media and this is what many people buy into. Unfortunately the media we expose ourselves to does not always promote reality. So, we gonna look into what you can do when your husband/boyfriend wants to get rid of or rehome your dog. My husband has point blank said no more pets. I feel bad for having these feeling and I feel awkward telling my friends about it because it seems so petty but its not. It barks at you when you seek to embrace her because it is telling you that your girl friend is its piece of property. Visit her to be there for her and show your love. The dog acts out, becomes even more needy, which only breeds guilt in their owner, so they turn their focus away from their relationship to focus solely on the dog again and boom, the issues start! This is the biggest load of BS. I dont have children and they have filled that void in my life brings forth the pivot in the issue of dogs/cats with respect to relationships between the animal and the pet owner. Dogs need to be dogs . its because she allows it when im not there. Oddly, our son is his first child. The dog doesnt know a leash nor rules. Sometimes the bond is instant and sometimes its not. I just want to be free from this and not have to deal anymore. My husband got bored with him long ago and while he does the minimum walking and feeding, he shows him absolutely no affection whatsoever. But having spent a considerable amount of time at his house already with his pain in the ass dogi told him i am not moving in. When he does bark the sound can pierce my boyfriends damaged ear and all the stress he feels about the apartment, money, health, etc. She insists that the dog sleep in the bed. Ive read quite a few of your posts and I feel that mine situation is not as harsh as all of yours. Never a problem. If wed go somewhere in the dog house truck, shed sit by him while I sat by the window. He sincerely believes his quality of life would diminish if he couldnt sleep with his furry friend and I know that I would grow to detest that animal. This is why people end up divorced, no boundaries are ever respected. As long as you can strike a fair balance that ensures your pets needs are met, consider giving your partner a pass on nightly pet duties. And ruin the home. Maybe I should just spray all the floors in the house. This should be obvious. One time I walked into the LR I found the dog laying with her back against the sofa and watched him laying facing her and placing her legs on his side. Hes quit jobs because he couldnt have the dog with him. He ran and she chased him. Before when we werent living together, my partner would allow him on his bed, cuddle with him, he peed twice on the bed, and has a foot fungal smell to him (some bacteria in his skin he is taking antibiotics for) that made it smell of feet and death; this is all I had to endure prior to moving in together. I want to focus on our marriage and we want to travel together, I moved to the US for him, so we want to visit my home country regularly and also visit other places. I never bother him at night, I go ahead and get up to quite him so he doesnt wake my husband who works very long hours. My guy would never put that thing in a crate. It makes me sick when I read all you haters comments. Beau never has accidents and is probably the most problem free dog I have ever owned. Take this as a bit of insight as to why some draw so easily to animal company that can not be so easily deterred as human company can. Lots of men in the world who love dogs and arent nasty jerks. If I say something to him about how he is acting Im the enemy. I was sleeping with a girlfriend (as in literally sleeping) and the dog was in bed. Later I said, hed save me and blame me for the dog dying. Nor will he let me even attempt to give the dogs away. I had them for years. Things worked ok for a while my wife complained about grass in the house so I invested in artificial grass to solve the problem. Why get a dog in the first place then??? There is some anthropomorphising going on here but in the most negative and stupid way! I havent been able to talk to my bf much about it as Im scared it will lead into a huge fight and hell breakup with me over it. I started a new relationship in January this year with a guy that does not like my dog. The thing is, i told her hes ok at the foot of the bed, i dont mind him on the bed if hes there and i had been telling her for 3 months to start training him but she jokingly would refuse to do so. I am worried about bringing our children into a stinky, messy, hairy home. Ive been with my boyfriend for two years we currently live in a house with 6 animals 3 cats, a dog, and two rats. Its so embarrassing to know these things. You are so right Pip. My pets were part of the family. Hes a shnoodle. Shes a total bag and runs his life. Otherwise Id have shut the dogs away for him and Id have known from day one that dogs were a no-no. I never was when I was married to my husband and he seemed to be married to his female dog. Its fantasy to think otherwise. I did not even respond to that stupid. You are both digging in your heels and being adamant. I am engaged and although I have known my fianc has never cared for inside dogs, he has always tolerated them even at their most annoying times. It is amazing how blind people are to this, but really it needs to be an instant deal-breaker as pets dont get a say, and they depend on their people to look out for them. Jay, thanks for posting what has occurred since your relationship ended in your life. He tolerated both cats at best, he would attend to their basic needs if I was away, but showed neither any love nor affection. I actually had to clean it out of the DVD player the other day. They ate grown A%% men. Dog doesnt know a kennel. BTW I dont see them as Pets more like my children considering I had miscarriages and stuff and they keep me happy. Best to put him in a bed in another room. And I cannot say anything, I am always told to ignore it, hes fine. He once told me that my kids were not allowed to sleep on the couch but his dog can. Absolutely, it is completely unsanitary. I am sad to say that these differences are ending my marriage but at the same time, I will be glad to say good riddance to someone who is so shallow that they let dog hair on the couch upset them. Mid January, we adopted a shelter dog. Apologizing and thinking we can both move on didnt do the trick either. Its akin to watching out of control kids with their parents oblivious to their behavior but very transparent to an observer. Anyway, I now smoke cigarettes because Im so stressed and didnt before. The problem is that my boyfriend for the most part responds with yelling horribly at him. Ive always had cats growing up, and honestly dogs do not mesh with my personality very well. For reference, my garden is my sanctuary and my one place I can go to relax. And Im so sorry for all that youve gone through. Im sticking to my guns. He gets punished for that? I am an animal lover. It feels so annoying when you hear heavy barking for long hours, even at night. According to them, people who dont like dogs are not to be trusted. Ive really tried bc I feel terrible for him, but then when we finally moved in together he started to guilt me into doing more things for the dog like walking her on a rotating basis with him. Not to mention how he cuddles and talks to his dog all evening. My boyfriend cant stand me saying anything either..TODAY the freakin thing jumped up on my rocking chair & it was rubbing itself all over it. I am rarely amused by behaviors that others consider cute (i.e. I have never in my life seen a dog that sheds soooooo much hair. Because he hates dog hair even though whenever My dog did come to my boyfriends with me he would have to stay outside. Challenging for sure when polar opposites. OR, if you are out of this area, inquire about a telephone or e-Lesson Thank you guys for your advice; really appreciate it and it comforts me knowing Im not alone. And if youre the one resenting your partners pet, be clear about what you need to feel better. She tried to intervene but it wouldnt stop, biting me a few times. Since then we have communicated about what it is that makes him upset1. She has about 7 years left of her life so this is a very big commitment. Sounds cruel, but Im willing to suffer for my bf. They should not be in bed with you they should not be on furniture they should not be allowed near small children. My husband gets upset with me for yelling at the dog when he snarls at me and it drives me crazy! , i love all of our dogs i dont want none too go away! I volunteer at a rescue feeding orphaned baby pups and kittens. I cannot even go sit down and relax, because they are all over me, and clawing my skin in their wild excitement. And guess who has to clean up all the s***? Lets just say 1 more time that dog is gone!!!! I dont want him to be miserable for the sake of me getting what I want. Im ready to move out into my own apartment and my boyfriend is choosing to stay with his parents and the animals ugh. Before we even met he has had a medium sized border collie/labrador cross and a cat from a previous relationship. As much as I love my cat it is literally the most annoying sound I have ever heard. yeah? He was nasty to her at times, but I chalked it up to the fact that my dog had a different daddy before him (hahaha). Create an allergy-free area in your home. If she needs the vet or nails trimmed, I transport her there and pay with his money. It creeped around corners, wouldnt go anywhere without surveying the situation. I kept thinking, whats wrong with this picture? 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